In the past 12 hours, I have had discussions with 4 different men on the topic “Can men have sex with a woman they dislike if she is also hot?” Apparently the answer is yes. I have even been told that a man can enter into an extended relationship with a woman whom they dislike, if she is “super hot.” Doesn’t it make you men feel icky?

As a man, I feel icky most of the time.

Also, I can't speak for all men, but I don't buy that relationship based on hotness business. I mean a one-time deal, maybe, probably-- but dinner and movies and meet my friends? That doesn't seem realistic.

Get real. She doesn't even have to be superhot. As long as she's not actively UNattractive (physically), giving up the punani is all it takes.

Relationship is an awfully big word. Honestly, I'd be more ashamed to be seen in public with a hot moron than an intelligent average-looking woman.

It is possible to have sex with someone you dislike. I've known people who slept with ex's for years after they broke up who, at least when they weren't fucking, they couldn't stand (or at least were very good at pretending they couldn't.) But, to be fair, it takes two to dance that tango (on the other hand, there is emotional history there, which is different than if you never liked someone at all.) I can't imagine doing it personally, because I tend to try to think that people I don't like just cease to exist.

fuck you cyrano.

hereitype, I was just saying that's it theoretically possible because I've seen it. Nor was I saying it was a desirable situation, because it's not. It was in no way meant to be any kind of sidelong allusion to Sarah, if that's what you're thinking. I certainly didn't mean to offend and I'm not quite sure how I did it, but I'm sorry if I did.

IMHO, although it is physically possible to have sex with a woman a guy dislikes, it has nothing to do with her "hotness." It has only to do with the guy's "horniness" level. In either case, it's a bad idea.

i feel icky when i'm taking a shit and thinking about it.

i mean, come on -- poop is coming out of your butt! that's icky.*

i don't feel icky at all when i'm having sex with a girl that i do not like in 'that kind of way'.

no, i feel guilty and even possibly entertain the idea that yes, everyone may be right and I am a total asshole. but i do not feel icky.

*yeah, i did have to go the poopie route, but there's something about the word 'icky' that just demands it. i'm sorry.

As long as a guy is physically attracted to a woman, it doesn't matter that she may have qualities that he dislikes, as long as she is not a total opposite of what his level of acceptance is. I mean, if it's just going to be a one time thing or mutual benefit, most guys don't care.

Women on the other hand need more of the mental connection through personality, etc. Looks play a part, but not as much as it does for us guys.

I mean, our basic function is to keep the species alive and procreate as much as possible.

Yes of course. There can be a certain hotness to it if you both really can't stand each other. And, you don't have to deal with any of that post-coital awkwardness because chances are, you're already awkward around each other. It can be a little uncomfortable if you realize halfway through that she actually does like you though. Then it's more guilt than ickyness.

Disgusted yes, icky...I don't think I have ever felt that or used that word in a normal course of conversation.

Sorry, but if I don't like you, I'm not sleeping with you. Don't care how hot you are.

N/C is a man?! Now that's surprised me.

(Sorry, N/C, I don't mean that in an insulting way, I always assumed you were someone whom I know, who uses that psuedonym.)

If a guy is dumb enough to enter into a relationship w/ a chick just because she is "super hot," he deserves all the crap and drama he gets from her. Though I don't see that very often since out here in LA there are plenty of hot girls willing to give it up w/out the promise of a relationship.

Hot chicks in LA?? No way!

No problem, Vanessa--because of my girlish wrists and ankles and long, luxurious hair, I'm mistaken for a woman all the time.